Healing from heartbreak is painful. Extremely painful in fact. The longer you were with your significant other, the harder it feels to heal from the loss. You may never feel ready to grieve, but it is a requirement in order for you to move forward. Grieving is a normal part of being human as much as creating something anew.

You have been hurt by the presence of infidelity in your relationship. This breach of trust could have happened a long time ago. It could have happened last year or you could have just discovered it this week. What matters most is that it hurts like hell and that you feel like things are falling apart, you are falling apart.

One common idea that can come up when discussing polyamory is “I didn’t sign up for this when I married you.” This may sound argumentative but being able to speak the truth may help start the healing process. You see, our guts feelings often tell us that we are not built or ready to commit to a certain thing.