Pursuers tend to lean more on the anxious attachment style: You tend to feel more anxious about what could go wrong in the relationship. When you bring something up to your partner’s attention, you want to get it done right and while it’s still hot because you feel worried that nothing will change if you don’t actively address it.

In my clinical experience, one of the most daunting consequences of sexual trauma is the feeling of loneliness that lingers even after the abuse is over. Some people refer to this feeling of loneliness as “the void,” an emotional vault that no matter what they do, stays… empty.