Building a relationship takes hard work. Structuring an interracial marriage adds its own twists and flavors to the existing challenge. If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by the demand of picking and choosing which cultural values that you and your spouse must compromise over for the life of your marriage, you are not alone.

I love talking about money with my spouse, even early on in our relationship. Though, many times, it did not go as well as I planned because my husband is a withdrawer and I am a pursuer when it comes to financial planning. So, if you find yourself and your partner stumbling along on a similar road, you’re not alone. My family has been there.

One common idea that can come up when discussing polyamory is “I didn’t sign up for this when I married you.” This may sound argumentative but being able to speak the truth may help start the healing process. You see, our guts feelings often tell us that we are not built or ready to commit to a certain thing.