It is the uncertainty that family members, especially stepchildren, experience due to not knowing who should be included or excluded in the new family structure. This type of boundary setting is not clear cut because it is not defined by household arrangement or biological relationship.

I love talking about money with my spouse, even early on in our relationship. Though, many times, it did not go as well as I planned because my husband is a withdrawer and I am a pursuer when it comes to financial planning. So, if you find yourself and your partner stumbling along on a similar road, you’re not alone. My family has been there.

One common idea that can come up when discussing polyamory is “I didn’t sign up for this when I married you.” This may sound argumentative but being able to speak the truth may help start the healing process. You see, our guts feelings often tell us that we are not built or ready to commit to a certain thing.