Blaming comes from a place of disconnection. When we’re in pain, we expect our partner to somehow know it and do something to take the pain away. When they fail to respond to us the way that we expect, we tend to lash out at them for our feelings of hopelessness.

Just like any form of insurance you have purchased in your life, there is no absolute guarantee that you and your belongings will be 100% covered with insurance. Though, the chance of you being protected and cared for against the odds is high. Likewise, love insurance does not provide a conflict-free and eternally-happy condition for your marriage.

When asked what better communication looks like, couples feel frustrated as the answer they receive sounds foreign to what they think their partner wants.